An open letter to parents from someone who works with kids of all ages...

 Before I get started, here is some background information about me. I'm 24, single, grew up with one younger sibling, and I work with kids grades 1-12th in an Afterschool program. Throughout my whole life, I've been around younger kids and have helped out with those younger than me in several different roles. 

What's been on my heart currently is a bit of heartache because I see so many kids, mostly preteen/teens, have an overall outlook of just not caring. I see so many young people not caring about what they say or do, especially to other people. I see them not care about any passions or hobbies. I see young people being self-focused and not motivated to participate in anything that doesn't have an immediate reward for themselves. It breaks my heart to see children and teens living this way and seeing the effect it has on those around them. 

That being said, I want to encourage parents today to inspire their children to have passions and desires in life. To inspire them to have empathy for others and a genuine interest in those they spend time around. To inspire them to reach their potential and be great (not the greatest). To encourage children to want more out of life rather than living it day by day, stuck in a stagnant cycle of the mundane. 

This task is specifically for the parents or guardians of the children and not for teachers, youth workers, coaches, or any other adults that regularly interacts with their children. The relationship a child has with their parent is the very first relationship they develop. Therefore, parents have one of the highest levels on influence on the child. This task is most effectively done by setting an example. 

From early development, children mimic their parents/caretakers. Children are still developing into adulthood and I believe children are still likely to mimic their parents as they enter adolescence. With this influence on their children,  it is crucial that parents set an example of someone who is caring, empathetic, passionate, and driven. We cannot expect children to exercise these characteristics if they have not seen them displayed in their day-to-day life. 

In order for children today to reach their full potential and become responsible adults in the future, they must see examples in their individual lives and practice what it looks and feels like. Consider this as you interact with your children and as you interact with others.